The Lessons of Family Bonding

Recently over Easter, I visited and spent time with my family, a stressful and joyous time for many.

Over the course of the weekend, I realized something huge.

First, my mom valued my advice and most importantly, LISTENED AND HEEDED IT. That was crazy - a first time for sure.

Second, I listened to my parents complain of simple marriage and family issues (at least so they seemed to me, from the outside). I gave them advice in return and acted as a pretty successful (if I say so myself) family therapist. My mom realized she couldn't have 'perfect' and needed to relax more; my dad learned to speak up and voice his opinions and not get angry about things he couldn't change; and my sister (later) learned to listen to my parents' requests while still living under their roof and respect their wishes for just a bit longer.

Tolerance and respect were the lessons of the day.

What I myself realized was that I was pretty good at listening, something I've always previously struggled with...I was pretty good at giving others advice that was clear, unbiased, and helpful, all while not pissing everyone off...I was good at being the normal one in the family for once, something I've also never previously achieved.

I can be calm, I can be a good listener, I can help my family, I can play mediator, I can learn to be stressless and happy and relaxed all at the same time, knowing that the world won't end or collapse if I allow myself to be.

Marvelous. :)